I first saw Raffaella Ciavatta’s work when the animal rights organization she helped to found, Collectively Free, burst on the scene in 2014 with daring videos and actions that have garnered wide media attention. I was initially impressed by Collectively Free’s activism but I have been even more impressed as the grassroots organization has grown to become even more intersectional and encompassing as their work has matured. I am always looking forward to what I will see next from them.
As co-founder of Collectively Free, Raffaella brings her design skills and her unabashed passion for integrated social justice to their activism, from creating striking and memorable actions to keeping the organizations core values transparent and considerate of everyone. We need more vegan organizations to place the high value on intersectional activism as much as Collectively Free does. You can find them – and should follow them – on these social media platforms. I am honored to feature Collectively Free’s Raffaella Ciavatta as this week’s Vegan Rockstar.
1. First of all, we’d love to hear your “vegan evolution” story. How did you start out? Did you have any early influences or experiences as a young person that in retrospect helped to pave your path?
I was actually raised a vegetarian and was diagnosed with anemia when I was a kid by a doctor who told my mom the only way to cure it was for me to eat flesh. So, I started eating flesh (never solved my anemia, FYI) and let myself be carried by social pressure. Being born and raised in Brazil made it extra easy for me to continue to eat animals as there were as many steakhouses there as there are Starbucks here.
It wasn't until I
moved to NY and got involved with rescuing dogs and cats that the dissonance
really hit me. During the meetings of the rescue I was part of, which was ran
by a vegetarian, there were always animals' bodies being served and one day
something just clicked. I went home and watched as many undercover videos that
I could possibly cram in 24 hours, then I read tons of articles in the next 24
hours and became a vegan.
2. Imagine that you are pre-vegan again: how could someone have talked to you and what could they have said or shown you that could have been the most effective way to have a positive influence on you moving toward veganism?
2. Imagine that you are pre-vegan again: how could someone have talked to you and what could they have said or shown you that could have been the most effective way to have a positive influence on you moving toward veganism?
I really, really wish I had met a pro-intersectional vegan who had shown me how my struggles as a queer, immigrant and woman are intrinsically related to the struggle of nonhumans. Also, how to unpack my own isms to not only be a better activist but a better person. Finding out I had been lied to about nonhumans was already mind-blowing, but putting that into the context that's connected with so many other forms of oppression is even more mind blowing.
That way, I wouldn't have wasted nearly a year of my veganism being so "animals first," saying really racist, binary and awful things, thinking you can "vote with your dollar" and that veganism was going to solve the world's problems.
3. What have you
found to be the most effective way to communicate your message as a vegan? For
example, humor, passion, images, etc.?
Passion and framing anti-speciesism as a social justice issue have worked really well for me. On the other hand, street theater and satire have worked really well, with our campaign Swapspeciesism. Examples here and here.
Passion and framing anti-speciesism as a social justice issue have worked really well for me. On the other hand, street theater and satire have worked really well, with our campaign Swapspeciesism. Examples here and here.
4. What do you think are the biggest strengths of the vegan movement?
We have all sorts of
very solid facts on our side.
5. What do you
think are our biggest hindrances to getting the word out effectively?
The thing with facts is that it's not enough to convince the vast majority of people because, well, we are creatures who love to cling to the ways we are used to thinking and we have a lot of biases.
I think the biggest
obstacle is ourselves - we want changes for tomorrow and a lot of us are going
to do whatever it takes, even if that includes making very superficial
analogies that come off as very disrespectful, using triggering words or
selling veganism as this cure-all-solution.
We have to resist
the urge of taking shortcuts when advocating and we have to broaden our
horizons and put veganism and animal liberation in a position that it is not
isolated from everything else, but one more piece of anti-oppressive work that
we need to tackle to make the world a better place.
That also includes meeting people where they are and linking anti-speciesism to something particular that they already practice. For example, as an immigrant, for me the link between wildlife displacement and my own displacement are undeniable. Going deeper, stealing land from nonhumans of any kind is an atrocious act that we can link directly to colonialism and white supremacy. If I'm speaking to an activist who does that type of work, this is where I'm framing the conversation.
6. All of us need
a “why vegan” elevator pitch. We’d love to hear yours.
I usually shy away from the word vegan, I prefer animal liberationist or animal rights activist but to the answer, because anyone, regardless of their gender, species, class, sexual orientation, ability and so on, deserve the right to live free from harm. Also because the way we treat animals directly influence the way we justify violence against one another - we dehumanize minorities and reduce them to "animals" in order to keep them underprivileged. Aph Ko writes brilliantly about this. I always say that nonhumans are our allies, not our enemies.
7. Who are the
people and what are the books, films, websites and organizations that have had
the greatest influence on your veganism and your continuing evolution?
People
Aph Ko + Syl Ko , Christopher Sebastian, Adam Weissman, LauraSchleifer, pattrice jones.
Aph Ko + Syl Ko , Christopher Sebastian, Adam Weissman, LauraSchleifer, pattrice jones.
Books
Dr. Amy Breeze Harper, Sistah Vegan
Carol J. Adams, The Sexual Politics of Meat
Angela Davis, Freedom is a Constant Struggle
Timothy Pachirat, Every 12 Seconds
Greg Jobin-Leeds, When We Fight, We Win
Dr. Amy Breeze Harper, Sistah Vegan
Carol J. Adams, The Sexual Politics of Meat
Angela Davis, Freedom is a Constant Struggle
Timothy Pachirat, Every 12 Seconds
Greg Jobin-Leeds, When We Fight, We Win
Charles E. Cobb Jr.,
This
Nonviolent Stuff’ll Get You Killed
David Bacon, The
Right to Stay Home
And many others!
Films
Usually documentaries that will make me very upset and angry lol so I can go figure out what to do next about it.
The most recent one I watched that was phenomenal was the 13th, which addresses the fact in the United States prisons are disproportionately filled with African-Americans. I recommend this to any vegans who want to start grasping the idea of racism in this country.
Websites
And many others!
Organizations
And many others!
8. Burn-out is so
common among vegans: what do you do to unwind, recharge and inspire yourself?
I hit the gym pretty hard, with weights. I have been neglecting it but now I'm back to it! Also design and poetry.
9. What is the
issue nearest and dearest to your heart that you would like others to know more
about?
The liberation of all, humans and nonhumans is one of the dearests causes to me. I wasn't born knowing all I know. It took so much work to get to where I am. It took daily unpacking of my own privileges. It took tears and sweat and above everything else, it took so much humility to admit I hadn't it all figured out like I thought I had. If I could ask something, that would be - remain open.
10. Please finish
this sentence: “To me, being vegan is...”
Powerful!
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ReplyDeleteHey guys my wife and I have been married for 15 years. For over five years I have been dealing with jealousy issues because of flirting and her having emotional type affairs with other men. I felt like my masculinity was in question and if I said the way she was acting bothered me, it seemed to make matters worse or I was accused of being controling. During this period I did state I wanted a divorce if the behavior was not going to end: texting men a night, leaving for the weekend without letting me know where she was going or not responding to messages. We do have a son and basically it's been him and I for the last year on the weekends. She disconnected completely from being a good wife and mother. In April she said she wanted a separation and I said no we need to get into marriage counseling. We did try that, but she was not very responsive and didn't give any effort. Afterward she was adamant about separation and divorce. I continued to say no and that we needed to save our family. She presented a separation agreement and I had to hire a lawyer. Because of the above behavior my lawyer suggested a private investigator. The investigator discovered my wife was having an affair with a close friend of the family who also is married with children. We know the extended families. I feel like I should tell this man's wife about what happened. This adultery has devastated me emotionally, I feel betrayed and I'm physically drained. I know my wife is passionate in terms of her sexuality, and I can't get the thought of them out of my head. It makes me question my own manhood, and I feel very inferior or that he must be a better lover or what ever. The problem is my wife pursued him. She would go to him and she lured him into this adultery. I felt this was coming for some time and could not stop it. She was not only lying to me but also to our son about what she was doing and where she was going. My family is important, my son loves her and as crazy as it sounds so do I. Can you respond with a course of action on how to proceed? I was still have a very huge place in my heart for her. so i searched for help online and I came across a website that suggested that Dr Ahmed can help solve marital problems, restore broken relationships and so on. So I felt I should give him a try. I contacted him and he told me what to do and i did it then he did a spell for me. 28 hours later, my wife came to me and apologized for the wrongs she did and promise never to do it again. Ever since then, everything has returned back to normal. I, my son and my wife are living together happily again.. All thanks to Dr Ahmed. as it is a place to resolve marriage/relationship issues, do you want to be sure if your spouse is being faithful to you or Do you want your Ex to come back to you Contact.: E-mail: Ahmedutimate@gmail.com or call/Whats-app: +2348160153829 save your crumbling home and change of grades its 100% safe. I suggest you contact him. He will not disappoint you.
David L. Ollis, 43yrs, UK